I have a 12 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD. With my background (Jamaican) we don’t believe in things like this where they suggest medicine to help with the situation. We tend to ignore the issue and don’t claim it. I want to tell you that it is real!
I noticed at a young age that he was quite unique. It was the simple act of reading a book to him when he was a toddler and not having his full attention. His attention would continue to jump back and forth between his toys and me reading. This was a good thing because it allowed him to attend regular daytime school at the age of 3. It was difficult to handle my son at the young age, but I pressed forward knowing that things would change and he would grow out of it.
Ha! Who was I kidding?! No really? It was a change alright. From one phase to the next. For every phase I had to learn new strategies on how to work with him. I thought I was the only person dealing with this and felt I was lacking experience. It really played with my emotions and I would ask why me. How selfish? One of the biggest issue was his lack of ability to take ownership of his actions. He lacked the ability to see his wrongs and accept the consequences. In his head consequences meant that everyone was against him. I use to punish him by taking away his phone and keeping him inside for a day. After sitting down with a counselor, my way of punishment was a bit extreme. I was told that I should explain the punishment along with the reason, but there can only be one consequences. I took the counselor advice and it helped lightened the situation.
My son is loving and caring and displays great leadership to his peers. Everyone loves his smooth laid back character, BUT! Yeah that famous word that comes after the positive feedbacks during parent/teacher night. It was almost like I knew what they would say each time we had a meeting. The recommendation is always for me to consider giving him meds to CONTROL him. Sigh. Couldn’t there be another way out?
He expressed to me that he doesn’t want to take meds and he will work on it. Everyday is treated differently. I know in order for me to help my son, I need to work on myself. I am taking it one day at a time with him and I believe he will get better as he mature. I also have a great support system from the school district who also wants to see him succeed.
ADHD does not define who he is. He is a sweet, smart, kind being who is always eager to help. He will succeed in whatever he decides to become in the future. Don’t be afraid to talk about it. Find someone to express your journey and help release any frustration that has occurred.
Determined to see them through
Humble to accept the progress
Defeat all odds
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